The Kind Mama Project is a Facebook group that provides moms (and dads) of all varieties a judgement-free place to support each other.
A little over a year ago I found out I was pregnant with my first child. My heart flooded with excitement, and my mind flooded with questions. Pregnancy, birth, and motherhood present some of the biggest questions in life, and you really just have to learn as you go. You can call your doctor, or do an internet search, but talking to other moms can be the most helpful of all. There is something so comforting in knowing that you aren’t the only one enduring crazy pregnancy side affects, or that other moms struggle with breastfeeding too. But what do you do if you don’t have many mom friends you can confide in?
I spent a lot of time Googling the many questions I had during pregnancy, and still turn to Google for answers to my hundreds of parenting questions. There are a whole lot of mom forums and Facebook groups out there, but I found myself hesitating to ever participate or engage. The reason? Judgement. There is so much mom shaming going on in these forums and groups. Most of them tend to lean toward one or another type of parenting style, thus leaving the moms who do things differently left out, or worse, at the mercy of the mom bullies who think they know best.
Why does motherhood have to be so polarizing? It shouldn’t matter whether you formula feed or breastfeed. Nor should it matter if you practice attachment style parenting, or follow the cry-it-out method. And it absolutely should not matter whether you gave birth vaginally or via c-section. The truth is, when it comes to parenting, we are all just doing our best. Unless there is an issue of neglect or abuse, there is really no reason moms should be cutting each other down. We should be lifting each other up, and helping each other to do the best possible job in raising our kids.
The Kind Mama Project came to me when I found myself (for the hundredth time) reading a thread of dozens and dozens of hateful comments and judgments on another mom page. I wanted to create a group where moms could come together to support each other, to ask and give advice, share helpful information, or even just to vent after your baby suddenly stops sleeping through the night. There is no one right way to parent here, there won’t be judgement for differing parental styles. I hope that you can feel comfortable connecting with other moms here, and maybe even find a mom tribe of your own.
If you’d like to join our Facebook group, click here.
Here’s to winging it!