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3 Tips For A Better First Year Of Marriage

3 Tips For A Better First Year Of Marriage

It’s been three years since my husband and I exchanged marriage vows and pretty rings. We said “I do” under twinkling lights, outside on a chilly New Year’s Eve. What followed was a glitzy celebration full of champagne, confetti, and popcorn. The whole day, from […]

Let’s Talk About Pumping

Let’s Talk About Pumping

I’m just going to say it, I freaking hate pumping. I’m not ashamed to admit it, either. It doesn’t hurt, and it’s not even that uncomfortable for me. It’s just a nuisance that’d I’d rather do without. I know some holier than thou mommies will […]

Book Review: Big Little Lies

Book Review: Big Little Lies

Four months ago I was very pregnant and impatiently awaiting the arrival of my first born. With an ever-expanding belly, I was working less and worrying more. I needed a good distraction, something to keep my mind occupied while I waited on this baby to arrive. I browsed the book section of Target, slim pickings, and settled on Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty. I started reading with the intent of little by little, instead I got sucked in and read the entire book in two days.

Prior to picking up Big Little Lies, I had just read Girl On The Train for my book club. I know, I was behind the times on that one. Anyways, I enjoyed Girl On The Train well enough, but for me, the element of surprise was missing from this thriller. I saw every “surprise” twist coming from a mile away. I had figured out the “who done it” part long before the killer’s identity was relieved in the book. Kind of takes the fun out of it.

Unexpected Plot Twists

That being said, when I chose Big Little Lies to be my next read, it wasn’t in hopes of unexpected plot twists, but merely just for fun. So, imagine my surprise when I was caught off guard by an unexpected twist. When the secret identity of a certain someone was finally revealed, I didn’t see it coming. I literally sprung up from the couch and yelled “holy shit” as my dogs looked at their crazy owner in confusion. To add to the mystery,  the novel begins with the a death and the investigation continues intermittently throughout the book, but it’s not clear who is dead, nor who is responsible. I did my fair share of guessing who may have died and who may have done the deed, but unlike with Girl On The Train, I just couldn’t figure it out. At the end, all was revealed and it tied together quite nicely, scandalously, but nicely.

A Protagonist After My Own Heart

My other favorite part of this book? Madeline. There was something about Madeline that I just gravitated towards. I was seriously hoping that my favorite character wasn’t the deceased, or the murderer. She definitely has her flaws, way to involved in other people’s drama for one, but she was so real to me. She fun, and had a big presence, but she was also vulnerable when it came to family, like the hurt she felt when her daughter decided to move out. No matter what was going on in her own life, Madeline wanted to be everyone’s fix-it lady, which often backfired in her face. Still, Madeline was like a breath of fresh air in comparison to Jane and Celeste, both of whom painted the picture of wounded, sad women. I think I felt a connection to Madeline and saw some of myself in her, some good and some bad.

Girl Power

Madeline is just one of the various types of women portrayed in this novel. Throughout the novel, there is consistent, if not petty, drama between the career moms and the stay at home moms. Both sets of women feel judged for their choices, something many women can relate to in real life. To add to the mix, Jane is a single working mother just trying to make ends meet, who is ostracized by all but a few moms (enter Madeline, another reason why I love her). Chapter after chapter, these women are at each others throats, often bringing the children into their drama. Then, with the revelation that one of them has been suffering, they put aside their differences and  finally come together to lift their fellow woman up. I loved this and what it says about women today. We are so quick to judge each other for our appearances, our career choices, our parenting style, we often forget that we are stronger when we work together. In the words of Queen B, who run the world?

Final Thoughts

All in all, this was a fun read. It was quick, interesting, and clever. The plot twists alone are enough for me to keep recommending it to my fellow book worms. And now, it’s a limited series on HBO! I watched the first episode a few nights ago, and I can’t wait to see it through. Reese is a perfect Madeline; actually I feel like the casting is spot on in all respects. I know it’s only been one episode, but so far, the show is staying fairly true to the book. I feel like they may have revealed too much about some characters too soon, but there is still plenty to ponder for those who haven’t read the book. And if you fall into that category, I encourage you to push pause on the remote and go read the book first!

Easy 4 Step Politics Detox

Easy 4 Step Politics Detox

Wow. What a long weekend; a new president took office and an unprecedented peaceful protest took place across all seven continents. On Friday I flipped through the various news organizations for inauguration coverage, and on Saturday morning I posted up on the couch with coffee […]

Why A Diaper Subscription Can Be Totally Worth It

Why A Diaper Subscription Can Be Totally Worth It

As a new mom, I suddenly have a lot more to think about on a day to day basis, and a brain that’s usually running on little sleep. That’s not the best combo for keeping life and the house in order. I often forget the […]

Resolving To Put Pen To Paper

Resolving To Put Pen To Paper

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I’m not a big fan of making New Years resolutions for the simple fact that they are almost impossible to keep. The reason? We tend to set the bar too high, and then we wind up feeling bad about ourselves when we don’t succeed. I don’t know about you, but I’m just not a fan of setting myself up for failure. Still, I love the feeling of a fresh start and the new possibilities that a new year brings. It’s enough to get me back on the resolution band wagon, within reason of course. It’s all about setting attainable goals, resolutions you can actually keep all year long.

How To Actually Keep A New Years Resolution

The trick to making successful resolutions is to commit to something you actually want to do. Choosing a resolution for the wrong reasons will most surely result in failure. For example, resolving to read a new novel every month when you don’t actually enjoy reading. You probably wouldn’t even get halfway through that first novel. If you’re resolving to better yourself in someway, keep it reasonable. Resolve to make healthier lifestyle choices instead of attempting to cut sugar cold turkey or participate in a triathlon (unless you’re already into those sort of things). I think you get my point.

Snail Mail Resolution

This year, my resolution is to up my snail mail game. Writing thank you notes and sending birthday cards is something I’ve always done, just not as diligently as I’d like. When it comes to thank you notes, I especially get bogged down after a big event or holiday. Unfortunately, I know I have missed a few people here and there. The same goes for birthdays and anniversaries. I’ve never gone to a party empty-handed, but if I won’t be seeing you for your birthday, I may forget to send you a card. This year, I’d like to change all that. Maybe even throw in some “thinking of you” correspondences just because.

I’ve Got A Plan

So how do I keep this resolution from ending up with all the others, on the island of forgotten resolutions? I’ve got a plan. The first step, and the funnest step, was to get some pretty new stationery. I scoured through TJ Maxx and Home Goods paper section and came up with two charming sets of stationery. I got lucky in the dollar section of Target when I stumbled across some gorgeous “just because” cards. And a few holiday orders from Erin Condren scored me a few stylish postcards. Step two was to update my address book, and I was all set.

Getting Organized

You and I both know that buying new stationery won’t keep me on track no more than buying new running gear will get you across triathlon finish line. That’s where the next step of my plan comes into play. Step three was to get organized. I pulled out my planner and made sure I had every birthday and anniversary accounted for, and made a list of such occasions for each month. To ensure I don’t let the month get away from me, I’ll fill out the cards at the beginning of each month. That way, when the time comes, all that’s left to do is stamp it and hand it over to the mail man. To ensure I don’t forget to send thanks, step four is to jot down in my planner every time someone does something deserving of a “thank you” note, or to make a list after any holidays or events in which gifts are received.

With this plan of attack, I think there is a pretty good chance that I’ll actually put my money where my mouth is. And, to top it off, my resolution will bring joy to those I love. I mean, who doesn’t enjoy getting snail mail? I feel special anytime I get something other than a bill or catalog in the mail. I’m feeling pretty darn good about my resolution this year. It checks all the boxes of an achievable goal, and it’s fun for me and my recipients. That’s what I call a New Year, New You win-win!

How do you keep your New Years resolutions? Tell me about it, in the comments section below! 

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